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  1. This is wonderfully written, Diana — angry and powerful but controlled and determined. And you make some superb points. Where I disagree with you is that *all* porn is bad; I’ve seen my share that is neither violent nor about female subjugation (nor lesbian).

    I agree with “A.” above that porn’s not going away, and that we, as women, DO need to fight the horrible stereotypes against which you railed so eloquently. We (and like-thinking men) DO need to make it known that it’s not OK. The kinds of porn you enumerated DO need to be addressed — while keeping in mind that we can’t stop it — in a way that gets the producers’ and distributors’ attention.

    I don’t have the answers but I’m sure that someone does, or will, and that, with solidarity, together we can make the kind of impression that will lead to making a difference.

  2. This is a great article. I love it. I agree that pornography is telling lies about female sexuality and robs us of intimacy. It does teach our young girls and boys the wrong things. However, the one thing I disagree with is that we can stop pornography. I really don’t think that’s going to happen. I think the key is to embrace it but … not to embrace pornography for the sole pleasure of men who use women as objects. I’m thinking more a long the lines of websites like forthegirls.com, which is a female oriented sex site created and run by women that focuses on female pleasure. Women do watch porn, maybe not as much as men, but our viewing of porn is increasing because our culture is so saturated in it.

    I don’t think the female-oriented sites are going to teach anyone about intimacy but on the other hand, if women can turn their attention to our own pleasure, we can start redefining the rules, making our own rules. The key, I think, is for women and girls to find a way not to buy into the male dominated view of female sexuality. We can say no and direct our gaze elsewhere and seriously, if men want sex they will be forced to conform to our standards. The female gaze must be turned away from our own objectification and self-destruction to our own pleasure, where men care about our needs and cater to our senses. I truly believe that’s the only way because stopping men and women from viewing porn and becoming addicted is impossible. It’s sort of like … we can’t get off this rollercoaster. We’ve got to admit that to some degree but we CAN change the direction of the tracks we follow.

  3. I would like to recommend to you that you cut off the genitals of men forcing women to act and abusing them. Just castrate these bastards who make women a tool for their pleasure…

  4. Diana, I LOVE the way you hold nothing backl!!! OUTSTANDING! Porn DOES hurt and it hurts ALL of us…
    Our children are even viewing it now and That is UNACCEPTABLE…
    God Bless You for telling it like it is!!!
    Liz

  5. Powerfully written – this is an important issue – I am disturbed by the attitudes toward porn, and the normalising of misogynist behaviours (3 and a half men, LYNX deodurant ad’s, Coke ad’s) The sexualising of children is becoming more and more prevalent, and again being normalised by chain stores and boutiques selling inappropriate clothing for children (girls predominantly) – In my view it is a form of “westernised talibanism” – the oppression of women takes many forms and is condoned in many ways. Having a daughter it worries me signifigantly the effect on her self esteem and views on sexuality. Thank you again, I am posting this to my FB page

  6. Diana,
    Another powerful story, And I believe it to be so true.I hope you don’t mind but I am gonna pass it along, have a good night, And once again what a wonderful job done.

  7. Di, I love how you don’t hold back. Some things just need to be said & put out there at the level of tolerance they deserve-none! We need to continue a no tolerance for porn, disrespect of women and violence towards women as well. And it isn’t just for women to step up & refuse to stand for the BS but men too….what have we fought so hard to get ourselves this far for?

    Btw-heard recently on the radio that this same subject is said to be attributed to the increase in promiscuity & social sexuality of our youth. It even went on about how marriage rates overall are lower along with self confidence & esteem. Not to mention peoples ideas about sex & how it should be experienced. Looks like you hit on a great topic!

  8. Bravo Diana

    We may have to be clearer on this for some….
    Women are NOT fuck objects.

    Some men and women may need to hear this again
    Pornography serves to desensitize men. It serves to make them less likely to have compassion for women.

    So then Men continuing in these behaviors are really the Puppets, women too
    Its all defeating, for both sexes
    Peace to you

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