By Sherry Pasquarello,Senior Columnist/worldwidehippies.com
We all have them. Some folks are better at reading them in others and some aren’t. A lot of people back when I was a kid called it a gut feeling. Scientists are now beginning to use that term again and believe it to be an actual thing that should be trusted. Some say it’s a holdover from a primitive time in human development that came in handy for survival. I can go with that. The thing is, can we sharpen that skill or are we born with whatever we have and that’s it?
I’m not talking about body language experts who study all of the little ticks and telltale signs that a person is lying or truthful; I’m talking about the way some folks just know to be cautious or welcoming to another human being because of the vibe they get from them. I think those are two different things that we may subconsciously use when we meet others for the first time.
When I was 2 years old I had a very bad brain tumor that was deemed inoperable. My mother asked the surgeon to perform the surgery anyway and then at least even if I died on the table at least she knew that she did everything possible. Well, I’m here 66 years later (on the 12th). The reason I’m mentioning this is that I spent many months in hospitals and doctor’s offices being sliced and diced and poked, prodded and pin cushioned. My mom said it seemed as if I could tell when a nurse or doctor was just there to smile and see what was up or if they had some procedure to do. Was it their body language? Could a two year old tell the difference between a vibe, a way a person held them self, perhaps a tone of voice or was it a bit of both? At the age of two was I, trusting my gut?
Fast forward to my teen years; I have to admit something here but since both of my parents have passed I think it’s safe. I was a quiet child and quiet kids can, for good or ill, get away with a lot more than most anyone else. I was lucky. I spent a LOT of time wandering the streets of downtown Pittsburgh and the surrounding districts. There were more than a few times where if I had not trusted the vibes I got I might not be here relatively unscathed. There were other times when I have to admit I’m here through just dumb luck. Looking back, I wouldn’t trade my experiences for anything. I met and hung out with street kids and street people and met hookers and one pimp, thankfully only one and it was easy to feel his vibe which was a bit kinder than he’d want others to see, reputations is a big part of being a pimp. I drank Boone’s farm with the hippies that had left home and school and who crashed wherever they could. I met junkies and dealers and older guys looking to get laid by hippie girls and I became friends with gays and lesbians and met some cross dressers and discovered that despite what I had been taught by the suburban kids and parents I grew up with; people are people. Some are good. Some are bad and most folks are just trying to live their lives like all of us are. I found out that black kids are just like white kids and that a boy that I loved for a time was half Native American with blonde hair and blue eyes; a lot of Irish and Scots Irish married Native Americans, hence the hair and eyes of my boyfriend. BTW, I hope wherever he is he has had a blessed life. He was a good kid.
Anyway, back to the vibes. I am very good at reading/feeling others. Now, was that a talent I was born with? Did I develop it through the years of meeting so many different people or did it just sharpen because of that? I don’t know. I know the times I was fooled were not because my sense of a vibe was wrong but because I wanted to be fooled. Oh I paid heavily for those times but it’s on me. I own them.
So, enough yammering. What I want to say is this; trust you gut. If you get an off vibe be on guard. Pay attention and take what they say with that grain of salt. You could be wrong but best to take your time when your vibe alarm goes off.
On the other hand, if you catch another’s gentle and nurturing peaceful vibe consider yourself fortunate and nurture that meeting.